Transform from Victim to Thriver

Posted on by
Reply

I am a Thriver of Abuse.  I used to be a Victim, and I was a really good victim!  If I do anything, I’ll do a good job of it!

Being a victim wasn’t doing me any good though.  All I did was talk the story.  Nothing changed.

I had to change my perspective if I was going to get moving again.

"People who consider themselves victims of their circumstances will always remain victims unless they develop a greater vision for their lives." ~ Stedman Graham

I stopped talking the story, and I moved from a Victim to a Survivor. 

I changed my story, and I moved from a Survivor to a Thriver.

I didn’t change the event.  I simply changed how I thought about the event.  I found gifts. I found value. That changed everything, including me.

Think about an event of your life that left you feeling like a victim, and then take the Joy Challenge.

JOY Challenge:

What’s one Gift I have received from my Event?

Outside Your Comfort Zone

Posted on by
Reply

I love this quote!

"If you have the courage to step outside of your comfort zone, you will not only be amazed by the marvel and sights of the world, but also with the wonders that lay deep within yourself." ~ Rosanna Ienco

When you step outside of your comfort zone, you get to see your beauty and brilliance.  Birds-eye viewing yourself! 

And you’ll say, “Jeepers! Look at me! I’m pretty amazing!”  OK…maybe you’ll use different words, but you’ll still blow yourself away.

Besides…it’s a lot easier to stretch that comfort zone when you’re pulling on it from the outside.  😉

JOY Challenge:

How can I take just one small step outside of my comfort zone today?

Do You Like You When You’re With Me?

Posted on by
Reply

I wonder how many people know how much they make a difference in other people’s lives?  I wonder how many people think about how they can easily make someone’s day with what the do or say?

"To a large degree, our success and happiness in life depends on how much people like themselves when they’re with us." ~ Joe Caruso

This quote can speak to business success, and it can also speak to life success.

If someone feels good about themselves when whey are with you, you may have made their day, and this can create an avalanche of feeling good with so many other people.  They are bound to “pass it on”.

JOY Challenge:

What would it take to “make the day” of the next person I connect with?

Make the Most of this Downturn?

Posted on by
Reply

What you think, and how you feel about, right now, is what is coming up for you.

If what you’re thinking about, and how you are feeling, right now, is not what you want, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that you may want to change not only your thoughts, but your feelings too.

Events are just that.  Events.  It’s how we think about those Events that makes a difference.

"We must reset our sails to take advantage of these changing winds and prosper as a business and individual. You can make the most of this downturn and position yourself for the next boom that’s going to follow." ~ Harry S. Dent, Jr.

So is what you’re thinking about a problem, or an opportunity?

JOY Challenge:

What is one opportunity that can arise out of my perceived problem, and how can I take advantage of it?

Ch-Ch-Ch-Choices and Divine Responsibility

Posted on by
Reply

I had no choice!

This is often what we cry when an event happens in our life that is, well, difficult.

I’ve said this many times, usually when I was looking at an event such as the abuse as a teen, or my divorce.  Those events happened. 

I didn’t think I drew them too me on an intellectual level, but what if I did?

"Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you." ~ Richard Bach

What did I do with those events?  What gifts did I receive?

I learned more about my own strengths.  I learned about forgiveness and compassion.  I learned about how to choose me.

What if my desire, deep within my spirit, was to experience and to remember these qualities I hold?  If this is true (and for me it is) then I did draw these events to me.  I am responsible, but not in that blame sort of way.  I’m responsible in a divine way.

JOY Challenge:

What is one Event in my life I choose to take Divine Responsibility of?