Is That the Best I’ve Got?

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When’s the last time you drop kicked yourself?

Today?  Yesterday?  Last week?

It happens a lot for most of us.  We are our own worst critic.

I did it this last weekend.  I had a weekend full of celebrations, and at the very last minute…WHUMPH!

Cue thought bubble…”I can’t believe I said that!” 

That’s the one that came out shortly after I said THAT.  That thought bubble drop kicked me most of the evening, and on into the night.

The thing is, everyone that was around me when I said THAT probably didn’t even hear what I made up they heard, and if they did, they likely forgot all about it within the next few minutes.  Something far more important like getting another coffee, calculating their parking fee, or the hungry grumble in their tummy, totally took over their thought waves.

We go through life championing for other people, celebrating their ups, and lovingly dusting them off when they are down.  We kiss their boo boos, wipe away their tears, list what’s great about them, and yet, when it comes to being our own best supporter, instead of a pat on the back we get a glove to the chops.

What do you do when your child or your best friend bumps up against one of these situations?  How do you treat them?  What do you give them to help them through?

How would your life change if you gave that same thing to you?  What would your life look like if you were your own best friend?

Thankfully, I only spent one evening drop kicking myself.  Once I gave myself the gift of a good night’s sleep, watched a happy movie, and went over what DID go great over that previous day, I started smiling at myself instead.  What I said wasn’t really that bad.  I just shared that I can use support and kind reminders from time to time, just like everyone else.  Who knows.  Maybe by sharing this, someone else put down their gloves and stopped the body shots.

Besides, everyone else is cheering you on.  You may as well join in the fun.

Maybe then you’ll notice that you totally rock!

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

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The Masks of Scarcity

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Scarcity shows up in many forms. 

It can show up in pricing our services too low. 

“No one will hire me at THAT price, so I’ll price it down here.  I need income…any income.”

It can show up in pricing our services too high as well. 

“I’m not going to get very many customers, so I better keep the price up there so I get enough income.”

Sometimes we keep the price up there to prove we are not the value on our price sheet.

Scarcity may have us avoid sharing our gifts at all.

What IS going on?  What is Scarcity?

People most often refer to it as “Lack Thinking”, which is a fairly accurate description.  I want to offer you one more perspective, which is something I’ve observed in myself, in my clients, and in our culture.

Scarcity is a Fear of owning our gifts and value. 

“I am enough.”

We are afraid of the consequences we have made up. 

“What if I put myself out there and no one hires me?  I’ll be so embarrassed!”

We are afraid of an illusion.

The way through Scarcity is Courage.

Have the courage to begin offering your talents and gifts, whether through services or creations.

Have the courage to put yourself out there…hang out your “Open for Business” sign.

Have the courage to receive equal value for your products or services.

Have the courage to see value in others’ products and services. 

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” ~ Lao Tzu

What’s one thing you can do to begin offering your talents and gifts to the world?

Remember a moment when you did have courage, and you did make it through an experience…any experience.  Remember that feeling.  Bring it with you into this journey.

You ARE enough, and the world needs you, your talents and gifts.

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The Only Way Out is Through

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It doesn’t matter what’s going on in your life, this is true.  The only way out is through.

If you stop, you stay in.  You can hide your eyes and cover your ears.  It won’t change a thing.  You’re in.

You can turn around and go back.  You’ll end up where you started.  You’ll still need to go through, and now it will take longer to get there.

It doesn’t matter where you are in your life, events happen.  Events happen to everyone. 

What’s different? Why do some seem happy anyway? How do they do it?

They know that the only way out is through.

They know that how they perceive everything makes the difference.

An event takes your money, but brings your family closer together.  Do you label this as good or bad?

An event causes you to take time off from work, but you’ve hurt yourself physically.  Do you label this as good or bad?

Each situation has two (or more) ways of looking at it.  Which do you choose?  One that makes you feel good, or one that makes you feel bad?

Which way of looking at it gives you energy, and which one drains your energy?

Which way of looking at it gets you through, and which one holds you back?

The only way out is through, and the way through is by you choosing the perspective that gives you the energy to make it.

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

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Perfectly Emotional

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It’s a good question!  There are many who believe that the only way we are in joy is if we have a permanent smile painted across our face.  The expectation is that if we are not smiling all the time then there is something wrong.  We must respond perfectly to every situation.  We must NOT be Human.

The truth is we ARE Human (at least I thin most of us are).  I gave up on being a perfect saint quite some time ago, but even now I catch myself having the expectation that I must not get angry or disappointed.  My feelings may get hurt.  I might screw up and be embarrassed. 

The truth is, it’s all good. The anger, sorrow, laughter, frustration…all of it.

Below is an excellent video that says it all.

(I’m sick of crying! Spiritual Growth ~ Isha Judd)

I love how Isha says not to suffer the process.

You are not more enlightened if you never get angry or sad.  You are not more enlightened if you are always smiling. 

You are perfect exactly the way you are in every moment, emotions and all.

Growth Underground

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494350_46294989 My husband and I have given up one form of connection to bring in another way for us to be connecting.

We used to go for coffee in the morning before separating off to our businesses.  This has been an important part of keeping our marriage alive.  We’re coming up on 11 years of marriage.  We found that the conversations we would have at coffee, though usually not on important topics, did keep the lines of communication open.  We have been able to tackle the more important topics thanks to these morning coffees.

We have been both feeling a need to bring the body into balance, so have chosen to give up the morning coffees for a morning workout together.  We’ve been going to the gym together for 6 weeks now.

The gym offered a free analysis with their trainer, so we took him up on it.  My numbers were where I expected…not that great.  Didn’t like what I saw on the scale.  Didn’t like the fat analysis.  Did like that my abs are still strong, so I did have one thing to celebrate.

I haven’t stepped on a scale in probably 3 years.  Found it was something to beat myself up about, so I stopped.  My weight has fluctuated up and down since choosing to not “scale it”, though the fluctuations were not big. 

There’s more to my body balance I’ve been playing with nutritionally, but I”m not getting into that one right now.

I want to talk about the Growth that happens when we don’t see it.

Since stepping on that scale 6 weeks ago, I have stepped on the scale at least two to three times per week, and frustrated myself.  I hadn’t lost a pound, and some days I weighed in two pounds heavier.  UGH!

My husband was giving me crap for stepping on the scale so much.  Said it was how my clothes fit that matter.  He’s right, but I wasn’t feeling like my jeans were any less tight, so I was annoyed with my progress.

I already eat healthy, so it’s the exercise that I was needing to amp it up. 

Finally, after 6 weeks of frustration each time I stepped on the scale I asked the trainer if I could test my fat content.  I wanted to see SOME kind of results.

It was there.  I had dropped 2.5% in my body fat levels.  FINALLY!  Some visible results!

All my growth had been happening “underground”.  The scale was actually showing me that I had gained muscle, but I didn’t see it that way.  I couldn’t see what was going on under my skin.

When it comes to personal growth and expansion, a lot of our growth happens underground too.  We don’t always see the immediate results of the work we are putting in.

The challenge is to hold fast to the path despite not seeing the visual results.  Whether you are making changes physically with workouts, nutritionally with diet (you can’t see when your intestinal track is all shiny and happy), mentally or spiritually, a lot of our growth happens underground.

Bring in a team to support you during these times.  Sometimes they see things you don’t.  Sometimes they feel things you don’t.  We judge ourselves so harshly at times that having a team in place can support you to balance this.

Team members can include your partner, friends, family, a trainer or a coach.  Find someone who you know is on your side.  Enlist them to be your eyes, nose, ears, analysts, and cheerleaders.

They’ll be able to help you notice the Growth that goes on Underground.

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

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