Never Turn Your Butt on a Celebration

Last Tuesday I interviewed Neil Fiore on Welcome Changes Radio

We were talking about how important Language is.  Language sets the energy for a conversation. 

girl-phone When you speak (to yourself or others), do you speak in an empowering or disempowering way?

We spoke about Leaders, and how can they blend an acknowledgment with feedback.

Have you ever had someone say to you: “You did this great, but could you try this other thing this way?

That “but” changes the whole energy of the conversation.  The “but” actually negates the opening celebration!

How would the energy of the conversation change if it was said with something other than “but”?

Try this one on for size.  “You did this great, and could you try this other thing this way?”

Completely different energy.  The initial celebration still stands strong, and carries the constructive criticism in a way the “but” never could.

When we were talking about this, I paraphrased the entire conversation in one sentence.

“Never turn your BUT on a Celebration!”  As soon as you put your BUT in there, energy of Celebration is gone.

Next time you’re in a position to offer some feedback, make sure you begin with a celebration, and be sure to add an “and” and keep the “but” out!

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

PS ~ Make sure you download Neil Fiore’s show.  It was a really good one!

It’s my Anniversary!

I’m thrilled to be celebrating our 11th Anniversary with my wonderful Hubby!

It seems like we’ve been together forever, and it seems like just yesterday when he was on one knee proposing to me beside Lake McGregor on the way to visit my Mom.

We’ve laughed a lot, and we’ve cried a lot over these years.  It’s been easy, and it’s been difficult too.  We’ve been through some pretty major ups and downs together.  One of the major ups was the birth of our son.

And…

It’s all been worth it.  I’m looking forward to the next 39 years.  (We figured it out…We’ll be in our mid-80’s…we could reach 50 years!)

Please join me in celebrating.  A celebration is always made better with friends!

I also want to share a gift with you, because isn’t that what everyone does?  I’m almost always different, but I can be the same sometimes too!  Please enjoy $11 off of my Joy Journal Audio Program.  When you click the buy now, use the coupon code of HAV (short for Happy Anniversary Velma).  I’m going to leave the coupon code active for just one week, so it expires on September 24th.

Today is a Joy-filled day for me.  Thank you for Celebrating with me!

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

PS ~ I don’t really have a PS, but this was looking naked without one!

FAITH: Trust on Steroids

Next Thursday (September 9, 2010) I’ll be the Special Guest for Queen of Dreams Radio with Tina Ferguson.  The show starts Thursday evening at 9 pm EST, 8 pm CST, 7 pm MST, and 6 pm PST.  You can listen online, dial in (if you won’t be near your computer), and play in the chatroom.  Visit here to get the dial in information, and to listen the day of the show.

I’ll be talking about something I’ve never spoken about on any Radio Show to date.

FAITH:  Trust on Steroids

  • What is Faith?
  • Where do we find it?
  • Faith in Divine vs. Faith in Self

We’ll be talking about this and more!  I’ll also be making a special offer during the show as well.

I hope you can make it!

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

PS ~ Don’t forget to register for the next Dream Camp coming up in mid-October!  Tina and I are the Camp Directors, and we have a fun-filled, diving-deep journey lined up for you!

The Queen of JOY interviews Tomar Levine August 19, 2010

Just a few months ago I interviewed Tomar Levine for Welcome Changes Radio.  FANTASTIC Interview! 

Tomar enjoyed being on the show enough that she invited me to interview her for her teleseminar event, Blooming at Midlife.

The teleseminar event is a series of three free teleseminars on the topic of Midlife Blooming.

Two of the teleseminars are already completed, but you will be able to listen to the playbacks.

Teleseminar 1: Completed Thursday, August 5th, 4pm PT, 6pm CT, 7pm ET

Guest Host: Nina Price of MidlifeWithoutCrisis.com

Topic: The Joy of Midlife Blooming and Late Blooming

Teleseminar 2: Completed Thursday, August 12th, 4 pm PT, 6pm CT, 7 pm ET

Guest Host: Catherine van Wetter of ToTheHeartoftheMatter.com

Topic: How the Recession Can Help You Bloom

Teleseminar 3: Thursday, August 19th, 4pm PT, 6pm CT, 7pm ET

Guest Host: Velma Gallant of WelcomeChanges.com

Topic: How to Bloom as Your True Self Using the Four-Quadrant Model

To find out more and to sign up for this free event, including listening to the playbacks, go to http://www.yourtimetobloom.com/events/teleclasses/

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

PS ~ Don’t forget to download the Welcome Changes Radio interview of Tomar Levine too!

It was so freaking awesome!

Velma-Mike-Dooley-July-2010 A couple of weekends ago I was helping Mike Dooley out with his World Tour III event in Calgary.  I’ve helped him out with all three World Tours actually.  I think he’s just the coolest guy, and I do consider him a mentor, a colleague, and most of all a friend.

He was one of my nudges along my path.  We were chatting on the phone, and he said to me, “Velma, why are you still learning?  You should be teaching.”  Set me back on my butt for a moment actually.  I had been locked into Paralysis by Analysis.  I was learning because I figured I hadn’t learned enough yet.  The truth is, I understood more than some.  I will always be in a state of learning, but I have grown enough I was able to support and teach others.  I stepped out of my comfort zone and launched my first teleclass. 

Inside I was squirming like crazy, but I did it!  Now I conduct weekly interviews on Welcome Changes Radio, and have set my sights on some other fun projects and ideas.  I haven’t looked back.

Anyway, back to the “freaking awesome” experience.  I make a point of listing my gratitudes daily, whether on paper, or verbally.  I know where I put my attention, the energy flows, so I make a conscious point of it.

Well I’m going to share one of my Gratitudes here with you.

I went to the Social the night before the actual event.  When I arrived, many of the guests were already there.  I’m not sure why, but there was a gentleman who opened up the 2nd door to the room, rather than having me walk through the open door.  Cool.  I end up walking in at the front of the room where Mike is sitting.  He stops mid-sentence to give me a great big hug before he continues.  Double cool.

Eventually everyone arrives, and we are to go around the room to introduce ourselves.  The ladies sitting next to Mike ask to speak after everyone else as they had just arrived, so I was first.  Before I could open up my mouth to share who I was, Mike introduces me to the group.  The Man of the Hour was introducing me to this small group of people who wanted some one-on-one discussion time with him.  Triple cool! 

Would you believe it actually gets better?

I ended up taking care of the Registration Table, and got to see everyone coming in.  Some familiar faces.  Some new.  Listened to his talk, and got lots of juicy bites from it, including going more General with some of my visions.  Good reminder.  I have a vision of me speaking, and rather than enjoying the vision I’ve been trying to hear what the heck I’m saying.  Talk about getting locked into the “How’s”!

Anyway, at the end of the event I stood up to comment on how amazingly the World Tour has evolved from the first one to now.  It really was an excellent talk. And to ask a question about a project I’ve been rolling around in my brain.  (I needed a reminder to step back from over-thinking it.)  Anyway, Anyway, before I could get my questions out, he stops me and introduces me to the whole room!  Quadruple Cool! 

It was so freaking awesome!  Nothing is cooler than the Speaker introducing YOU to the people who came to see HIM!

Anyway, I just had to share my celebration with you.  It’s been two weeks, and I’m still basking in the excitement of the experience.

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

PS ~ Where are you “thinking” instead of “moving”?

PPS ~ Don’t forget to come to tomorrow’s Welcome Changes Radio show!