Stuck…in between…feels like no where, but it’s between there (past) and there (future), and there (future) seems so far away we can’t actually see where there is, or how to get there.

Been there.  Done that.  Bought the t-shirt.  Visit there again often, and though it’s the same place it always feels strange and uncomfortable.

Back in January 2006 (I remember it well) I was in between.  I hated where I was.  I knew where I thought I was to go, but didn’t know how to get there.  I got a message from Divine.

I knew it was from Divine because it sounded completely ridiculous, and I would not have made that up in my head. 

 

"In order to leave where you are at, you need to love where you are at."

Since then I’ve hit many In Between Times (IBTs).  I seemed to think I knew where I was going, but I also didn’t seem to be heading in that direction.  It confused the heck out of me.  It frustrated the heck out of me!  OK…it actually ticked me off severely sometimes too.

Each time I’d hear "In order to leave where you are at, you need to love where you are at."

How the heck do you love STUCK?  How the heck do you love NOT KNOWING?   How do you love CONFUSION?

What I learned from each of these IBTs is that the words I was using to describe the experience were not empowering me.  That’s why I changed it from STUCK to IBTs.  Didn’t feel quite as bad.  There’s always IBTs.  Drive from Calgary to Edmonton (I’m in Canada), and there’s lots of highway in between.  It’s normal.  It just is.

I also learned over the years that sometimes not knowing is a blessing.  I would have avoided doing some things if I knew the difficulties along the journey.  And yet, each of these experiences has ended up being amazing.  Sometimes I can actually Trust that even though I can’t see what’s coming. It’s going to be fine.  Always is.  I’m always cared for.

Confusion…that’s just another even more disempowering label for not knowing.  I just dropped that one.

So…what do we do in these IBTs?

What do you do when you’re waiting for a bus?  You always find something.  Read. Notice the nature near by. Get impatient and clock-watch.

Find the blessings.  Find the gifts. 

What CAN you be doing now?

What CAN you be learning now?

You TRY different things.  You know…like at Baskin Robbins…taste things with that little pink spoon.

What would happen if you gave yourself permission to explore rather than decide?

What if you picked up a Mindfulness practice?

Is there something in your life asking for attention?  Your physical health?  Your spiritual wellness?

What might this IBT be asking of you or inviting you to play with?

What if this IBT is the right thing to be happening right now?

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!
Founder and Host of Welcome Changes Radio 

PS ~ Do you have an idea where you’re going, and not entirely sure how you’re to get there?  Going BIG Mastermind and Coaching might be exactly what you need.